7 ways to give your partner a birthday they'll never forget

Celebrating your partner’s birthday in a manner that will make them not forget quickly should always be a concern of yours.

After a while, you might get stuck on the matter of what to do to mark the occasion. That is, you’ll want to do something you have never done before.

  As surprise party works, sometimes (Framepool)

If you are at that stage, here are few things that should inspire you or give you some fresh ideas

Surprise birthday party

If you have never done this, maybe now is the time to. You do not need the whole estate dear.

To cut costs, invite maybe just two of his/her friends and two of yours. Should be fun.

Decorate their room or office

With the assistance of his/her colleague or someone at their work place, you could decorate their office with balloons and other beautiful things.

  Maybe you could decorate their office, too (RGBStock)

An alternative is to get the assistance of a family member, and decorate their room.

Cook their favorite foods

For women [and men, too], if you are the type that enjoys cooking, then, by all means, you could spoil him silly with two or three of his favorite meals.

It might be serious hard work, but if you are down for it, then you should do it.

Get few candles and light the room. Put on something really nice and make the effort to complement the food with some good looks. Apply little makeup, and get that party started.

He won’t forget easily.

  You could also choose to prepare some of his favourite meals (Mademenoire)

Little surprises

I once attempted to send someone 24 text messages on her birthday; that’s one for the whole 24 hours of the day.

Sadly, I ended up sending just seven or eight, but of course she appreciated it a lot because, frankly, receiving 8 beautifully-written mini poems is quite heartwarming.

Now you might not necessarily do this, but think of some little things you could do.

The cumulative result should sweep them off their feet.

  Get away to an hotel room and be alone (AsianAdventure)

Book a hotel room

For married couples and those who are already intimate to that level, you could book into a nice hotel room for your partner’s birthday.

I’ll let you decide what you do when you get into the room [of course!]

A trip down memory lane

American rapper, Kanye West, recently did something like this for his wife, Kim Kardashian.

He did a compilation of videos from when she was a little girl till when she was about 18 or thereabouts.

Though there might be no video records of your partner to work with, but with some determination, you can pull this off, too.

Get a compilation of pictures from your partner’s mother, and create a slide with their favorite music playing in the background.

  You could create some magic with romantic session of birthday sex (123rf)

And at the end of the video, you could add a clip of yourself wishing them a happy birthday and telling him/her that you have one more surprise for them when you both see later in the day.

And that surprise will be…

Birthday sex

Even if you both have been married for a while and have done this a number of times, you should still make it a bit more special than previous times.

Get candles, get some roses on the bed [or some other preferred location in the house] if can afford them, and put on some new sexy lingerie [or any other sexy stuff your partner likes]

The point is to make the occasion a special one, and you should indeed make it so

6 things a woman does only if she really likes you

How does a man know that a woman really likes him?

What are the things to watch out for?

When you notice her doing many of these six things listed below for you, you should know that she really does like you, for she would never do them for someone who does not really mean much to her.

  Here are the things a woman only does for a guy when she really really likes (Matchie)

She lets her jealousy show

Girls generally like to hide their jealousy because to do this, it means they are willing to let their vulnerability show, and they would never do that unless they really like you.

That’s the only time it’s ever worth it.

Dress up

This does not necessarily mean she wears her best dress every time just for you, it means she actually makes effort to impress you.

  When a girl tell you her deepest, dirtiest secrets, it can only mean one thing - she likes you (Shutterstock)

Reveals her deepest secrets

While girls might tell people some parts of themselves, they reserve their deepest, most intimate, even darkest and dirtiest secrets to someone they really trust, someone they truly like.

Admits her feelings for you

Women hate putting their feelings out there except they can no longer help it.

So if she’s spilling her heart out to you, believe her, she has to really mean it.

 When two people love each other equally, it is akways a beautiful thing (Pinterest)

Makes you food

Ok. This might be a bit general, but this article will not be so complete without adding this.

It might be because she is just nice, but of course, if she always invites you over to come enjoy homemade meals, just know there is a special feeling attached to it.

Allows you treat her badly

If she likes you, then she’ll let you get away with a lot more than you should.

Things that other men [and even her own friends] will never get away with, she'll permit them if it's you doing them.

This is not an excuse to intentionally maltreat women. But, if by chance, you are yet to really get your act right, and a woman repeatedly lets you go scot free, best believe she really likes you.

5 things a man does only if he really likes you

When a man really likes a woman, how does she know?

What are the things he does that almost always point to the fact that he is genuinely dedicated to her only?

Does he refuse to look or speak to other woman at all, or does he just follow her everywhere she goes?

This article explains five of the things a man does only if he sincerely, genuinely likes a woman.

  Remembering little details you drop during conversations will be no problem for him (Huffington Post)

Remembers details you tell him

Now this is not to say that when a man forgets details, he does not love you.

What this means is that due to the nature of males being less-organised and worse listeners than women, men most times forget stuff almost as soon as they are told, especially if those things are 'trivial'.

So, in the situation where a man remembers every thing... I mean, every single thing you tell him, then, almost certainly, that man does really like you.

  He never makes you question your importance to him (Internet Videos)

Never makes you doubt your importance

Let the obvious be stated once again: men are naturally inclined to be polygamous.

There is a tendency in every man to want to stray, to sample more than one fruit from the tree... and with the abundance if willing women, it is usually not a hard thing to accomplish.

When a man actively reins in this tendency, and goes extra mile to prove to you in words and deeds that he wants no one else but you, best believe him.

  If he is always there for you, he does really like you (Shutterstock)

Always there for you

Night and day, rain or sunshine, he is willing to do all he can whenever you ask.

That's a sign that he really, really likes you.

Speaks of a future with you in it

When he speaks of his plans for the next six months, he mentions you in it. His plans for the next two years, your name pops up.

Even when he's talking about his plans for the next five years, he somehow manages to fit you in it, what else does that tell you, apart from the fact that he genuinely likes you?

  If he speaks of a future with you in it, he likes you (Narodni)

Brags about you

In all likelihood, a very large percentage of persons aged 20 and above must have been in a relationship with at least two people.

So when a guy continually brags about you  to his friends, your friends, and anyone who cares to listen that you are the best thing to ever happen to him and that he does not think there is anyone in this life that he could ever love as much as he loves you, then you just have to know that that is a guy who likes you very much.

4 ways your bad experiences can help your new relationship

Due to certain reasons, many relationships do not get to last forever as the lovers dreamt they would.

While that might look and feel terrible at the time, it could be advantageous for subsequent love affairs.

Here are four ways your bad love experiences could make life easier for you in subsequent relationships.

You know when to leave a relationship Sometimes, people stay in a relationship even when it is obviously wrong to do so.

 Old retionships can teach you to know when to hold on and when it no longer makes sense to (Wordpress)

They stay long in the toxicity, hoping for a change that will not come until they get fed up and move on.

In subsequent relationships, due to the experience gained already, such people will recognise the moment a relationship becomes irredeemable, and move on at the very right time.

You learn how to argue without ending a relationship

If you have been in a relationship that ended due to yelling and fighting, and you recognize your role in that breakup, there is every chance that in a new affair, you’d have learnt the skill of expressing your unhappiness without tearing down your partner, and your relationship.

  You'll learn how to argue without having the fight end your relationship (On The Reel)

You know what you do not want

One of the best things to take out of a bad relationship is a better idea of things you cannot put up with in a relationship.

If you exit a bad relationship because of your partner’s continuous neglect of his responsibilities to you, surely, before entering into a new relationship, one of the things you will be sure to watch out for, is a man who takes his responsibilities serious.

It’s only natural to avoid the same bad things happening twice.

You learn you're still imperfect

When you look back on your old relationships and how they ended, one of the things you might recognise is that you were not entirely faultless for the way they ended.

  You'll learn of your own imperfection (YouTube)

And there, is one of the ways your new relationship gets to benefit from those past relationships.

Instead of relaxing, thinking you already know everything about how relationships go, you approach the relationship with a firm idea in your mind of that flaw and the realisation that it has the capability to ruin this present relationship like it did one or some of the previous ones.

The difference between then and now, however, is that you will not allow it ruin the beautiful thing you just found.

Will you?

5 ways to overcome shyness around women

It might appear that some guys just find it naturally, effortlessly easy to approach any woman of their choice.

For you, on the other hand, you get scared to approach any woman you find attractive, and no matter how easy it appears to just walk up to her, strike up a conversation and set the ball rolling,  you just never seem to know how to go about it.

Well, the five things listed below are just exactly the things you need to break free from shyness and get yourself the girl.

Focus on yourself and build confidence first

These things occur from inside out. When you build on your confidence and become surer of yourself and who you are and what you are capable of, you are about 55% above shyness and fear of approaching women.

Focus on yourself and build confidence first (Shutterstock)

Women think differently

Have you not seen instances where a woman ends up with a guy who you, as a guy, thought she couldn't ever end up with?

No matter how gorgeous and out-of-this-world she might look, she remains a woman, a human being like you.

Being scared that she won't be interested in you, and growing timid for this reason is a very wrong move.

You never can tell what she wants, or what she finds attractive. Who says you are not the ideal image of what she wants?

Develop a rapport with women you are not attracted to

Try to become friends with as many women as possible. By doing this, you could learn how to relate with women without the pressure of trying to impress  or appear cool.

When you successfully reach this level, you can be assured that somehow, you can hold a conversation with women without stress.

This will greatly simplify your task of talking to women in future situations.

  Develop a rapport with women you are not attracted to (Shutterstock)

Become boyfriend material

Now consider this: why are you shy? What exactly is the reason behind your fear and trepidation when it comes to approaching  women?

Could it be because you know that you are far from what that woman would want? Then work on yourself and become what a woman wants.

When you work on several aspects of yourself and get close to an image of what many women would want their ideal man to look like, a kind of boldness comes from this, and with boldness, your shyness melts away considerably.

  Realise that rejection is part of the game (Joy 105)

Rejection is part of the game

There are only two things that can happen when you ask a lady out. She either says yes or say no.

Ok. The manner of rejection could be embarrassing sometimes, but hey, it's just that - rejection, and it's totally acceptable.

When you get rejected, you move on and shoot your shot in another loop.

Winners do not quit, right?

Long relationships negatively affect women's sex-drive, research shows

Women who have been with a man for seven years or more see their sex drive reduce while the single ones in that same duration maintain the same level of libido.

According to a study involving about 2,173 women, which was jointly conducted by University of Turku and Abo Akademi University in Finland, sex drive of women somehow decrease over time when they are with the same partner.

  Women's Libido reduces with the longevity of their relationships (Alec Baldwin)

The study, published Psychology Medicine, tries to understand female sexual desire, satisfaction and frequency of orgasms over a period of seven years, and also tries to understand the role played by their relationship status in these things.

The most baffling outcome of this research is that long-term relationships tend to have a negative impact on the way women desire sex.

 Whether or not the sex drive reduces, your ability to achieve orgasm remains unaffected, the research says. (Pulse Ghana)

While the desire for sex reduces, the ability to achieve orgasm remains the same.

So, while it might be worrying that you will not be very eager to have sex regularly, you can be sure that whenever you feel up to it, you can still enjoy sexual activity to the fullest.