Ways to deal with a possessive partner

Every relationship is healthy with a bit of possessiveness, you know that feeling that someone loves and desires you makes you feel like a king or queen in your little world.
 

Every relationship is healthy with a bit of possessiveness, you know that feeling that someone loves and desires you makes you feel like a king or queen in your little world.

But it becomes sickening when it becomes too much like your partner wants to know your whereabouts every second of the day, who you speak or relate with and makes you feel controlled.

Over possessiveness could be as a result of insecurity and low –self -esteem sometimes due to past relationships or childhood experiences when one parent had an extra marital affair. Today we will discuss ways to manage this situation, they are:

Communication: Communicating your feelings to your partner is a good way to solve this problem. Express the fact that you are not running away from the relationship and he or she needs to trust you enough to make right decisions when he or she is away from you. Sometimes a simple “I love you “ or a simple compliment about what you love about your partner and be specific about it can do the magic

Express what you do not like in the Relationship: This is  still part of communicating, you should begin with examples of specific instances when you felt he was being possessive for example, “when you call me multiple times a day when I am with friends , I feel like you do not trust me “or when you act coldly when I talk about my female friends “. I do not like the fact that you snoop through my handset, it shows you do not trust me “ or require explanation for every movement. When you are having this conversation be calm do not go with the judgemental approach and don’t make the mistake of calling him or her possessive as this can result in an argument.

Involve your partner in activities with your friends: Sometimes all a possessive partner needs are simple public display of affection .When you involve your partner in activities with your friends like a hangout and make him or her feel among and not left out. It reduces the tension and makes him or her know you love them enough to show them off.

 Give the relationship time to heal: After expressing your thoughts and feelings it is time to give your partner a chance to change. Keep in mind that he or she cannot change overnight it is a gradual process.

Finally, in a relationship you have to keep in mind that both of you are a team and so it is a collective effort to move the relationship forward. Always correct your partner and compliment him or her when he or she is making progress about not being over possessive.

The failure of every relationship is when one partner gives up easily on the other. I will like to see your comments and question in the box below.

THE MOST ROMANTIC THINGS REAL-LIFE WOMEN WISH YOU DID MORE

More holding or more giving? More affection or more PDA? Here are the things women wish men would do more often.
 

» moreRomantic things women would have men do more often  (Couples' getaway)

'You can never satisfy women' is one joke that has been ceaselessly peddled among the male folk.

The authenticity or otherwise of this is a discussion out of the purview of this article. What we are concerned about here is the things that women feel men should do more if they are ever going to get close to satisfying them.

Using real life women with changed names, we list six romantic things women would love men to do more in relationships and marriages.

Neck kisses  (Scoopnest)

Neck kisses

Christiana says neck kisses makes her feel sexy and desired.

"I would love for my husband to walk up behind me, push my hair aside, and kiss the nape of my neck. It's a simple thing, but it gives me chills. It makes me feel sexy and desired, even if it's while I'm cooking."

Morning texts

For Shade, early morning texts are the most important. She wishes her husband would bring roll back the days before they married, when he used to send her really cute text messages as soon as he was awake?

"When we were first dating, my [now-husband] would send me a text message each morning when he woke up. It was never anything important — he would just say hi — but those messages let me know he was thinking of me from the second he woke up. Now that we're married, he can't exactly send me a text in the morning, but if he sent one during the day — again, just to say hi, just to let me know he was thinking of me — that would be amazing."

» moreSome women want to come home to the sight of their man occasionally making dinner  (Stay at the home mom)

Cook dinner

Chioma would have her man cook her dinner more often. That’s one of the sexiest sights alive as far as she is concerned.

"I want to come home one night to my guy cooking me dinner. It can be spaghetti and meatballs for all I care. But a man making me a meal is about as sexy a thing as I can picture," she says.

Long conversations

According to Sandra,"I miss those long, drawn-out conversations we had when we were just getting to know each other. So, the romantic move I crave most is my husband initiating an intimate conversation. We've been married three years now, but I know there is still a lot we can learn about each other."

Long conversations  (Pinterest)

Get me sexy lingerie

“I love the way my boyfriend gets me sexy underwear. The first time he did it, he got me a pair of matching black expensive lingerie and I totally liked it. I wish he would do it more often.

I understand the need for him to always get the best and they are quite expensive, so I don’t really disturb him much, but I love it when he buys me those.

» moreA little more frequency and skill in foreplay is all some women need from their men  (Urban Bush Babies)

Foreplay

Bilqees rounds off this article with her opinion on foreplay. She says she’s lucky to have a man who understands the value of proper foreplay but many women aren’t so lucky.

She says: “I wish men would be more patient with foreplay. I am one out of ten women who have men that focus on proper foreplay. The rest are not so lucky as men would rather rush towards sex and orgasm, leaving their women unsatisfied.

I think foreplay is one thing men need to do more often, and more skillfully.”

There you have it, men; more simple ways to satisfy your women and enjoy the best romantic relationships and marriages.

7 sexual act ladies wish men can do more

Spice up your relationship and marriage, guys; learn the things babes really want from you at intimate times.

 

Many women might find it difficult to discuss these things because they are either shy or because they expect you to find out on your own.

We got you covered though, and with the information provided below, you can be sure that you will meet your girlfriend/wife's truest desires even if she's too shy to vocalize them.

 Eye contact

Eye contact is very important during moments of intimacy, especially when you’re actually having sex.

Hannah [not her real name] says,"Especially when he first puts it in me.

“There's the whole ‘me seeing him seeing me take him into me’  thing that gets me so turned on… moves that make the experience feel more intimate, and makes the sex feel more passionate."

» moreMaybe a little more edginess to the way you make love is all you need  (Image of Love)

Get your freak on

“I think that the majority of women like it when a guy spanks them,

The rule here, however is to be sure that she is cool with it, and that you do not get into outrageous kinkiness [except she likes it that way of course.]

For instance, by asking, "can I spank you?"you can ensure you're both on the same page.

Be a bit more vocal

You know how you know something is being done right by the moans coming from her?

Well, she thinks some form of cue from you might be helpful too.

"I love it when I'm having sex with a guy who's really loud about what feels good

"Especially when I'm on top. It… turns me on even more."

» moreBeing more spontaneous with your love-making is also a brilliant idea  (Pinterest)

Get better at playing with the clit

Statistics establish that that 70% of women require clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm.

So, guys, learn how your woman likes it touched, and touch it often.

Greatest tip; be gentle around there. Be very gentle, until she says otherwise. [Thank me later.]

Longer foreplay

As a matter of necessity, women need a healthy amount of foreplay to make most love-making sessions worthwhile, and doing so not only brings her satisfation, it also has amazing positive effects on your relationship/marriage.

A lil’ more spontaneity

It’s as simple as ABC, add a considerable dosage of quickies to your relationship or marriage.

Of course, you have to know that you don’t need to get into the bedroom before things can get heated up. And in some instances, you do not even need grand foreplay. Going straight to the point might be the most explosive thing you do sometimes.

Be extra attentive

"If a woman is making noise when you're doing something, take note. It means she likes that thing.” says Harachi.

In conclusion, many women would rather have you do stuff that actually turns them on, and gives them maximum pleasure.

All the things listed in this article are very useful, but if your babe is not feeling a particular one, switch things up.

That something got your ex soaring pleasurably into cloud 9, or that it was listed here is not complete guarantee that your babe will like it.

Pay attention to her and how she reacts to the things you do; that’s the biggest rule of all!

"How often should married couples have sex in a week?

What do you think about sex and how often married couples should engage in it?
My wife – we just married 5 months ago – she thinks it should never be done more than twice a week, and that just does not sound right by me.
I feel it should be as much times as we feel like doing it. I have never argued this with her because our marriage is still very new and I do not want us having issues already.
Please what do you think – I need to hear someone else’s opinion on this.
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The issue of sex in a marriage is something that is best left between both partners . This is because what works for couple A will most likely not work for couple B » .
Nonetheless, thanks for trusting me with this info and for reaching out.
Some say thrice a week is ideal, » and there have been some other several
interesting studies and conclusions » about the frequency of sex in marriages.
But like I said, this issue is dependent on the couples in question.
I feel this is particularly an issue of you having a higher libido than your wife. You will need to broach the subject to her at some point and I advise that you do it soon.
Being denied sex, or not getting it as frequent as possible will likely lead to sexual frustration and that can be avoided if you have a conversation with your wife about this.
If twice a week is not enough for you, you have to let her know – you both have to reach a compromise that works for both of you.
I think stewing in silence is the poorest way to deal with the situation. It is better to even talk about it now at the early stage of your marriage than letting grow into some uncontrollable situation.

5 Reasons Why Sex Can Feel Painful

Sex is supposed to feel good, right? Right. But the sad truth is that it doesn’t always. In fact, reports show that 75% of women experience painful sex at some point in their lives. That’s a lot of women. Why are so many of us hurting? 

There are tons of potential reasons, but here we highlight five of the most common causes of those less-than-perfect sensations you’re feeling during intercourse. 

First things first: did you know the personal care products you use can actually cause inflammation down there? Soaps, body washes, and perfumes are just a few of the items that tend to contain chemicals that can irritate the vagina. 

What’s more, most women know when something’s off in between their legs. Whether their discomfort is due to a yeast infection, a sexually transmitted disease, or bacterial vaginosis (which can either be asymptomatic or characterized by discharge, odor, or itching), pretty much anything unusual that goes on below the belt can interfere with sex, making it feel more painful than pleasurable. Ugh. 

Other potential intercourse interferences include vaginismus (when muscles involuntarily tense up), vaginal dryness, or ovarian cysts. They may sound scary, but each of these conditions can be treated quite easily. 

Want to learn exactly how you can treat these pleasure-blockers? In this video, we teach you about five common reasons why sex can feel painful, and give simple solutions for each. Tune in if you’re suffering from any of these annoying sexual health problems, so you can get back between the sheets (and enjoy it!) ASAP. 

 

Real guide to identify cloned Samsung galaxy

An original Samsung device, displays lively colours on-screen. Fake Samsung phone shows dull colours.

It is true that thousands of people have been lured into buying fake Samsung phones because of their cheap prices, but it is also true that the motivating factor behind their mistake is a lack of awareness.

Why are there fake Samsung phones?

The reason for fake Samsung phones is because Samsung galaxy phones run on android and android is an open source operating system. The source code of the OS is open to all interested parties under open source licenses. With this, most phone manufacturers takes advantage by creating the counterfeit of popular devices. And these companies are doing well in the art of manipulating consumers into buying their knock-off phones at very low prices.

So you want to buy a Samsung phone, but you do not know the difference between fake and original? Or perhaps you have succeeded in buying one, but you are beginning to doubt its authenticity? If any of these two scenarios are likened to what you are experiencing, then I urge to still yourself; for in a moment, your doubt will be cleared.

What are the ways to identify cloned Samsung galaxy device with ease?

1. Check Samsung phone IMEI (International Mobile Equipment Identity) number: The IMEI number is a unique number for every smartphone. So it is important that the device IMEI will be similar to the manufacture box IMEI number. In other to check the IMEI Number of your Samsung device, simply dial *#06#.

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IMEI label

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2. Check Samsung phone camera: Any original Samsung phone camera  is capable of capturing full regulation clear and Sharp photo. In a fake or clone Samsung phone, camera regulation will be like original but it’s image quality will be dull and poor.

3. Check Samsung phone memory: Most Samsung phone contains 8GB/16GB/32GB device memory. Original Samsung galaxy phone have nearly 5.5GB/10.3GB/23GB free memory out of 8GB/16GB/32GB memory device. But a fake or clone Samsung smart phones always contains less memory than the original device.

4. Samsung code test: In an original Samsung phone, you will get some software and hardware info by dialing some code from dial pad. Simply dial the following codes from the dial pad.

           *#1234# (View SW Version PDA, CSC, MODEM)

           *#0*# (Samsung General Test Mode)

           *#12580369# (Device SW & HW Info)

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phone check

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           *#197328640# (Service Mode)

           *#0228# (ADC Reading)

           *#32489# (Ciphering Info)

           *#232337# (Bluetooth Address)

           *#232331# (Bluetooth Test Mode)

Be smart enough to understand that the device you are holding is likely to be fake if it does not bear these codes on it.

In addition, observing physical check is another way to discern whether a Samsung phone is fake or real. So, be it that you are using a Samsung Galaxy Note 4, Note 3, S5 or S4, some limitations are made visible under keen scrutiny.

If a Samsung phone in question has any of the signs below, chances are, that Samsung phone is fake.

What are physical signs to look out for when identifying a fake Samsung phone?

1. Check on the Samsung phone screen’s brightness and vibrancy: An original Samsung device, displays lively colours on-screen. Fake Samsung phone shows dull colours.

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fake and original samsung phone

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2. Check the space from the screen to the edge. Cloned Samsung phones have a wide gap from the edge of the screen to the edge of the phone.

3. Run your fingers through the Samsung logo on the front screen. You can feel the Samsung logo on fake phones. The name can be easily chipped off, too.

4. Check the hard buttons. Home buttons and volume buttons have abnormal gaps on the fake Samsung phones.

5. Check the Samsung phone screen’s glass material. Run your fingers through the screen. If it feels like plastic more than glass, then the Samsung phone is bogus.

How to identify original Samsung phone battery?

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comparing fake and original samsung batteries

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Steps

• Check for Samsung logotype on the battery It must not be misspelled and look exactly as the original Samsung logotype.
• The Samsung phone battery contacts should not pouch from the battery unit.
• There must be a serial number on the Samsung phone battery.

In conclusion, you should be reminded to rely on these tips whenever you are in doubt as to whether the Samsung phone you are buying is original or cloned. These tips are infallible. They won't fail you.

6 simple guide that will help you save for your child's education

The economy is on the downside, and the sustenance of normal standard of living is becoming difficult with each passing day. The idea of saving for a child’s education is promising enough to immediately get one started, but with the present day downtimes, discouragement will not give room to the encouragement of any move.

As a matter of fact, it is important to remind yourself that however hard or difficult the situation may be, education is one right that no child should be denied. In other words, a child’s education is a must; and saving for that education beforehand, takes the pressure off you in the coming years.

So you've been thinking about how to plan and save for your child’s education? Or perhaps the possibilities of the plans you've made are too slim to meet with reality? If your experience is similar to any of these, then see below the simple steps to help you save for the security of your child’s future.

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Graduation

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Here are some simple guide to help you save for your child’s education

1. Know what you can save by cutting your coat according to your size: Get a clear picture of your income and identify what can be erased with ease from your expenditure. Start the saving with that. Also, there are other habitual spendings that are not really necessary. Do away with them, and channel their money to the saving kit.

2. There should be no limit to your savings: You might have more than one child, and the prospect of saving for them all might seem ridiculous, especially if your financial income is not as big- as big should be. However, you should bear in mind that there is no limit to your savings; you can save as much as you can if you really want to save. Try setting a target for yourself, and see to it that you find every possible means to make it work.

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saving

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3. Create a savings account: You should constantly remind yourself that you have a limited time to save after creating a savings account. Save on the account everything that will concern the education of the child. From transportation to feeding; from tuition fee to accommodation. Estimate the cost of each of them and tend the value of your savings to their direction.

4. Make use of family resource: This might sound ridiculous, but it will pay off in the long run. Encourage grandparents, godparents and other family members to add their contribution to the plan, in place of gifts for Christmas, birthdays and other events.  Suggest to grandparents and godparents that the best legacy they can offer your children is a contribution to their education. As earlier said, this idea might sound ridiculous. It might look embarrassing to those with high shoulders; but hey, it’s your child’s godparents and grandparents we are talking about. And it’s your child’s education we are also talking about.

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Dad and a graduating son

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5. Involve the child: This is one way to introduce your kid into the reasonable world of savings. Give understanding to the child as he/she grows with time. Educate growing child on the need for him/her to see his/her education as a paramount thing. Let them also contribute to the savings however small it might be. The idea is to involve the child and not to make him/her source for funds.

6. Review your budget regularly: You might get a pay rise, and that should mean for you an addition to the amount you've been saving. And even if the dark side of life decides to befriend you for a while, by letting you experience a reduction in pay, try not to discourage yourself in the process; For the future of the child is a thing that must be secured.

In conclusion, you should be reminded that the goal is to secure the future of your child, and it is a goal that is worth any sacrifice.

The 5 signs that your partner is about to ghost on you

If you are observant enough, you'll notice the signs and avoid being left hanging.

Ghosting is the term that describes someone's decision to quietly disappear from someone's life without telling them about it.

Ghosting hurts more than the normal breakups because it leaves you with nothing to hold on to. You’ll have no reasons to mull over, no parting words, no reasons, nothing. They just leave you behind like that, empty and confused, and blindsided.

People don’t just ghost though, there are often signs and hints they drop here and there, and you can pick on them if you are observant enough.

playA'ghoster' just leaves you without any explanation (Dazed Digital)

Below, we list five of the signs that show that a partner is about to ghost on you

1. They STOP messaging you first

Ghosting manifests easily on social media platforms and one of the top signs to look out for is that they suddenly stop reaching out.

Whereas, she would text you first, she suddenly NEVER messages you except you reach out.

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2. Far-fetched excuses

Their excuses for not reaching out or for not doing the things they used to do before will become worse, and more unbelievable.

They know the excuses are stupid and illogical, but most times they’ll say it nonetheless.

3. Detached

They also begin to show signs of detachment – conversations and chats with them are no longer as fun as they used to. And no matter how much you try to lead them on, even if you raise topics that used to get them chatty, they’ll still be distant and will still sound disinterested.

4. Always busy

They suddenly become too busy to go to places you always went to, too busy to call you when they used to, too busy to stay on the video call for as long as they used to, too busy to do everything you liked them for.

playDates used to be shorter once... but no longer (Owambe)

5. Shorter dates

When you finally get them to hook up, they won’t even be available for enough time for it to count.

These things might not get extreme, and might happen intermittently; but before you know it, they’re gone without an explanation and with nothing to say to you.

This is what love feels like with the right person

In the early stages of a relationship, everything will feel so sweet and so romantic… like a page pulled out of a splendid fairy tale.

Sadly this giddy feeling often fades off at some point, leaving the partners stripped and wondering if they are still in love at all. This is usually the stage where many relationships crash.

But according to couples who have been together for 30 years and more, this is what love feels like with the right person… the one with whom you can spend forever.

playLove at the early stages feel like paradise (Urban101)

1. You’ll feel like you’ve known each other forever

Mrs. Nnena says when she started dating her husband in 1984, it felt like they had known each other forever and even when they got married in 1985 it only felt natural. 32 years later, their three daughters are now happily married and they are still very happy together.

playYou will love each other like you have known each for all your lives (Pinterest)

2. Accept each other

Partners that will last together accept each other the way they are from the onset. They take themselves as they are – no attempt to change or turn the other person around to suit their ‘taste’

“He always accepted me with the baggage I came with. When I look at my husband today, I see the same guy I fell in love with 53 years ago.

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3. You don't just love each other

If a relationship is going to last long, you’ll discover from an early stage that you and that partner will love each other, and also like each other.

Mrs. Suliat [not her real identity] says “after 39 years, my husband and I still like each other a lot. We're together almost every moment of every day and still find laughter.”

4. They do little things to make you happy

Love remains to be found in the little things and one way to identify a partner who’ll be with you for a long, long time is their ability and willingness to so little things to make you happy.

playYou find joy in the little things they do for you (Pinterest)

"After almost half a century together, I would marry my husband all over again. He knows how much pleasure I [find in little things]. After all these years, he still adores me and I adore him." Says Naomi, married for 43 years.

5. Similar values

When you find someone with whom you have similar goals, similar ideas and a significant merge of values and things that mean a lot to you, then you can be sure that you will be with such person for long.

“Too many people expect perfection from their spouse, but people aren't perfect. The fact that we wanted the same things out of life was the sign to me that we were meant to be." Says Nana, a grandma married for 41 years

5 top causes of tooth decay

Tooth decay happens when acid eats away at a tooth or two (and so on!) which leaves holes in the tooth.

Bacteria and food can cause tooth decay. It starts out as plague; a clear (usually sticky) substance forming on the teeth and in some cases gums which are as a result of bacteria the feed on sugar from food consumed.

As the bacteria breed on the tooth they secrete  acids that attack the teeth which eventually starts eroding the tooth enamel, destroying them and causing tooth decay.

This degenerates and goes on to cause pains, infections and in some cases completely eat the tooth which would have to be taken out in the end.

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Brush in the morning and night to avoid teeth decay

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1. Eating food with high sugar content and carbohydrate

Foods high in sugar as well as starchy ones are the most common cause of tooth decay. After eating these foods, one should make sure the tooth are brushed to kill the chances of bacteria breeding on them.

2. Skipping regular brushing and flossing

Going without brushing twice daily (in the morning and last at night) will leave tooth decayed as it would become the perfect breeding ground for bacteria.

Brushing daily, flossing and getting regular dental checks help prevent tooth decay.

3. Low Fluoride

Fluoride keeps gives tooth resistance to acids caused by plagues and generally makes them stronger where this is absent, the tooth will be prone to decay.

Fluoride are present in toothpastes and water.

4. Smoking

Smokers ( and even second hand smokers) stand a great risk of having enamels and gum eroded which eventually leads to tooth decay.

5. Dry mouth

A dry mouth or one without enough saliva leaves the tooth at a greater risk of decay where otherwise saliva would have helped to 'wash away' sugar that ends up causing bacteria.

Embarrassed by dandruff? See 2 natural way to tackle it

Dandruff come in form of extreme dryness of the scalp leaving flakes of dead skin and greasy mess in otherwise healthy hair.

Dandruff and any form of scalp dryness are usually caused by lifestyle habits amongst other things as not tending to the hair as should be (when this isn't not a serious skin issue in which case expert opinion is best sought).

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Healthy natural hair 

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Dandruff is usually characterized by flakes of noticeably dead skin cells (whitish) in the hair. Sometimes not so serious cases of dandruff is caused by dry scalp but other serious cases may be an indication of underlying health problems so if it stubbornly persists, it should be treated.

These two ways are tested and guaranteed ways; using coconut oil and lemon to get rid of dandruff:

1. Warm up coconut oil or olive oil

2. Work this into the scalp using gentle circular motion as you massage into the corner of the scalp

3. Leave this for about 15 minutes

4. Continue with  normal gentle shampoo and conditioner.

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Dandruff is a common skin condition that causes dry white or dry grey flakes of dead skin to appear on the scalp/hair.

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1. Soak cotton with lemon juice

2. Work the soaked cotton ball in gentle circular motions around every area of the scalp

3. Massage lemon juice into the scalp with fingers afterwards for about 10 minutes

4. Continue with  normal gentle shampoo and conditioner.